The Law of Attraction is everywhere these days. The thinking goes something like this: if you think positive thoughts and align those thoughts with like emotions, then everything that you desire will come to you. Doesn’t that sound incredible? Yes, please give me some of that!
So how come people who do this don’t always get the results that they seek? While I believe that there is power and truth in this approach, I also believe that the formula is missing a crucial element-personal accountability. The power of manifestation really comes from taking 100% responsibility for your life.
Why is that? It is a question of source. With the Law of Attraction, when all the things you desire don’t come streaming in whose fault is it? The Universe’s of course. You have done your part by thinking and feeling happy thoughts, so where is your stuff? True, and what have you done to move in the direction of your goals? How have you taken action?
The Law of Attraction is really about energy and your thoughts and emotions are only two pieces of that energetic puzzle. What about your words and deeds? They are also powerful energetic forces that we often overlook because it’s simply easier that way. It’s much more fun to sit on the coach waiting for our riches to appear than it is to go out and physically move in that direction.
When you choose to become personally responsible for your life you complete the puzzle by becoming an integral part of the process.
So what does it mean to be responsible for your life?
Webster’s dictionary defines responsible in the following ways
1) involving personal accountability
2) being a source or cause
3) capable of making moral or rational decisions on one’s own, thereby being answerable for one’s behavior
When you choose to be 100% responsible, you actually become the source or the cause of the results that you see in your life because you are willing to be accountable to yourself for those results?
I realize that for many people it might feel overwhelming or unreasonable to think that we are all completely responsible for the results in our lives? I can hear the questions that are rolling around in people’s heads. “How can this be? I don’t live in isolation. I am involved in relationships-I have a husband, wife, children, parents, friends, neighbors who influence and affect the circumstances in my life and therefore the results that I manifest.” Yes, and to put the onus on them is to disempower yourself completely. The truth is that you are the one who chose to bring these people into your life, so you are the one responsible for their role in it.
What I would really like you to see is the freedom that comes from being totally accountable for the choices you have made. This is where your true power lies because the people, situations and circumstances that you currently have in your life are the manifestation of the choices, thoughts, feelings and actions you have made in the past. If you are not happy with the results you see, you have only to make different choices and take different actions.
So you might be asking yourself, “How do I take 100% responsibility for myself?” There are many ways. I’d like to share with you my top 7.
Ask yourself, “What are my other choices?You only ever have the present moment. And in each and every moment you always have a choice. Ask yourself, “Does this choice empower me or disempower me?” “Does this choice resonate with what I want to create in my life?”
Ask yourself, “How can I fulfill my own needs?” Too often we look to others to get our needs met. We want someone else to love us, appreciate us or encourage us. How well do you do that for yourself? How could you be your own greatest supporter?
Live by intention not expectation. When we look outside of ourselves to have our needs met, we are living in expectation. When our expectations don’t get met, we are disappointed. However, when we take conscious control of our lives and live by intention, we no longer look outside ourselves for validation.
Live on the cause side of your life. We have a contribution in every single situation and circumstance in our life. When we choose to ask ourselves, “In what way was I the cause?” you are choosing to consciously take back your power to make a different choice and therefore manifest a different result.
Say you’re sorry. Move beyond your ego and into love. There is nothing more beautiful than a sincere apology. No matter what the situation, it always takes two. What part did you play?
Find the gift and be grateful. In every situation there is a golden nugget. Are you willing to step back and find the gift in even the most challenging of circumstances? Gratitude is one of the most powerful forces of manifestation in the universe.
Extend love and compassion. While gratitude is one of the most powerful magnetic forces, love is at the top of the list. When you extend love and compassion everyone wins. Whether you verbalize this love or send it energetically the effect is the same. Move beyond your pride, ego and pain and be genuine and sincere. This is the single most powerful choice you can make to help you move in the direction of your dreams.
I invite you to make a commitment to taking responsibility for your life so that you can consciously create the life that you want.
Article Source: Lynne Guerne
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